CABARAN PMS: PERANAN SUAMI DAN KESAN KEPADA RUMAH TANGGA

[CHALLENGES IN PMS: THE ROLE OF HUSBANDS AND THE IMPACT ON MARRIAGE]

Abstract

A marriage is a meeting that produces a bond of love between its members, mutual protection, understanding, sympathy and empathy for each other. Islam also pays great attention to household affairs such that each makes the difference as a complement to the household. Each of them has a different way of thinking, limitations of power and differences in brain and emotional functions. However, it is very upsetting when these differences are deliberately ignored. Among the difficulties is when the wife faces the menstrual phase every month. Therefore, this article  was conducted to find out the roles of husbands in the mental and physical changes of women during menstruation. For that purpose, a qualitative design was chosen because of its compatibility with the objectives to be achieved in this study. Data was obtained through document analysis and structured interviews. The initial survey was conducted on six respondents who were married men. The data was then analysed using a thematic method. The initial findings of the study show that the majority of husbands have empathy and play a role in helping their wives face the phase of premenstrual syndrome (PMS) from various aspects. Among them are helping with housework, providing mental and physical support and taking care of the wife's emotions before or during menstruation. The study then suggested the involvement of various stakeholders, especially the Ministry of Women, Family and Community Development to give exposure to husbands about the conditions of women when experiencing the premenstrual or menstrual phase and how to overcome them.

Perkahwinan adalah pertemuan yang menghasilkan bait kasih sayang antara ahlinya, saling melindungi, memahami, simpati dan empati antara satu sama lain. Islam juga memberi perhatian yang besar tentang hal ehwal rumah tangga agar masing-masing menjadikan perbezaan tersebut sebagai pelengkap kepada rumah tangga. Masing-masing memiliki perbezaan cara berfikir, keterbatasan kudrat dan perbezaan fungsi otak dan emosi. Namun, amat menyedihkan apabila perbezaan-perbezaan ini dengan secara sengaja tidak diberi perhatian. Antara keadaan kesukaran tersebut ketika isteri menghadapi fasa haid setiap bulan. Justeru, artikel ini dijalankan untuk mengetahui peranan para suami terhadap perubahan mental dan fizikal wanita ketika haid. Untuk tujuan tersebut, reka bentuk kualitatif dipilih kerana kesesuaiannya dengan objektif yang ingin dicapai dalam kajian ini. Data diperoleh melalui analisis dokumen dan temu bual secara berstruktur. Tinjauan awal dilakukan ke atas enam orang responden yang terdiri daripada para lelaki yang telah berkahwin. Data seterusnya dianalisis menggunakan kaedah tematik. Dapatan awal kajian menunjukkan bahawa majoriti para suami memiliki empati dan berperanan dalam membantu isteri menghadapi fasa sindrom pramenstruasi (PMS) dari pelbagai aspek. Antaranya ialah membantu kerja rumah, memberi sokongan mental mahupun fizikal dan menjaga emosi isteri sebelum atau ketika haid. Kajian seterusnya mencadangkan penglibatan pelbagai pihak berkepentingan terutamanya Kementerian Pembangunan Wanita, Keluarga dan Masyarakat untuk memberi pendedahan kepada para suami tentang keadaan-keadaan wanita ketika mengalami fasa prahaid ataupun haid dan cara untuk mengatasinya.